my top five date night activities
“Love is the answer; at least for most of the questions in my heart, like why are we here, and where do we go, and how come it's so hard. It's not always easy and sometimes life can be deceiving but I'll tell you one thing, it’s always better when we're together.” Jack Johnson
don‘t you just love love?! I’m one of those people that cry when people get together at the end of the movie, or when I see two old people holding hands walking down the street or when someone tells me a romantic story or I see an epic proposal on YouTube... and don’t get me started about The Notebook... yes, I’m a sucker for love.
my husband and I are high school sweethearts! we were married on a Whitsunday Island in 2005 surrounded by our closest family and friends. we’ve grown up together.
I honestly believe that the best kind of love, the kind of true soul mates, awakens the soul and makes us better people, better listeners, better lovers, better nurturers and better friends. it allows you to be at your most vulnerable and at your strongest. it feels like home and an adventure all at once.
we’re now in our 40’s, with careers and without kids, so we are conscious and considerate of our relationship. that it doesn’t get stale or that we don't take it or each other for granted. after all, it’s just us two.
with that in mind, I thought I would share my top 5 date night activities.
five :: the movies
I know it’s a little cliche, but there is something classic about heading out to see a movie; cradling your popcorn and a choctop, their hand on your knee. we love the fancy cinemas for date night; Gold Class or LUX so we can order food (sliders, nachos or an icecream sundae) and have a drink in the lounge before the movie to catch up on our day. for us, sci-fi, thrillers or something scary is key on the screen for date night. it’s fun to watch something together and snuggle in the big comfy couple seats in the cinema.
four :: drinks & dancing
there is something wild & free in heading out to a bar for a few drinks and then dancing in a loud sweaty club til the early hours of the morning!
I love the ambience of a dimly lit whisky bar, peanut shells on the floor, the line for orders at the bar is three deep and you need to sit close in the booth to hear each other talk.
three :: home pampering
I wasn’t really sure what to call this one...
imagine a glass of wine, the smooth soulful voice of Sade on the stereo, a shared bubble bath followed by an oiled massage. things will naturally lead you to the bedroom, or remain on the lounge room floor...
this is a great time to sexually reconnect, talk (and act out) your fantasies and just really share that deep connection without the rush of life getting in the way.
I guess this might be a little hard to navigate with children around, but it’s date night, so drop them off to a babysitter for a few hours (or overnight if you have family) and make the most of your quality alone time together!
two :: a play or concert
there are so many types of live shows you can see these days, at a variety of prices so it doesn’t have to cost you your left kidney. scour the local paper, council billboard or local area website for what’s on in your area.
we’ve been members of the Sydney Theatre Company for several years and see a play every two months. experiencing live theatre is culturally rewarding & intellectually stimulating. on the odd occasion you really can’t get into it, you can either nod off (careful not to snore!) or leave at intermission and find a drink somewhere!
one :: dinner
my favourite date night activity. good food & good company. whether it’s fish & chips on the jetty, sushi at your local Japanese restaurant or something more fancy, for me, date night with food and good conversation is the best. we talk about the everyday and our plans for the future. we reminisce about past adventures, or discuss current world events. probably all of these topics of conversation. I love my husband’s brain, and all that goes on in it, so to have uninterrupted time to discuss things and hear his thoughts and feelings and share my own, is golden. I always come away from our dinner dates a little full, slightly tipsy but invigorated and mentally & emotionally stimulated.
I hope this list gave you a few ideas, inspired you for your next date night, or was just plain entertaining!
If you do anything different (or enjoy the same) I’d love for you to drop me a comment!